The Random 25- the mom perspective.
25 Feb 2009 3 Comments
1. I have learnt that I don’t mind taking a shower in less than 3 mins. I have also learnt that I dont mind not taking a shower at all at times.
2. People said I would lose my selfish streak after I had a baby. I didn’t. I personally think I became more selfish.
3. People also said I’d start liking all kinds of kids- I haven’t. I am very choosy.
4. After Nadi, I feel like I have tapped in myself some great reserve of strength and ability I was previously unaware I had.
5. Contrary to what most people said it would be, the first six weeks with Nadi were magical- it was like we were suspended in bubble and the outside world did not exist.
6. We had the name Nadir all pegged out but no girl names. No clue what we would have done had he been a she.
7. If I had a word to give my pregnancy time, it would be butterflies.
8. Since we are a majority girls family, I had no idea what I would do with a little boy if I had one. Now that I have one, I cannot imagine what on earth I would have done with a little girl.
9. I am slowly turning into the kind of mom I always thought I might be one day.
10. I love taking Nadi out- to coffee shops, malls, shopping, groceries even to the campus. His take on day to day life being an adventure is addictive and much needed.
11. I thought that having Nadi would somehow take away from me and k being a couple. I realize now that it affirms it in every way possible.
12. I loved not working. Even if it only lasted 2 months.
13. I can breastfeed, use the computer, and have lunch all at the same time. While making a mental to-do list for the day. And they say robots will take over in this century. BAH.
14. I dont know how parents who have lost children move on- or continue- i’ts my greatest greatest fear one that can bring me down to my knees even in its mere mention.
15. The smell I associate with my Nadir birth time is Salvatore Ferragamos Incanto Shine.
16. I have realized that in so many ways I am the exact opposite mother my mother was. And in just as many ways, I am the exact same.
17. I don’t see myself as a Dadi type. More like a Nani. So I need to have a couple fo girls while I am at it.
18. Sometimes I put clips in Nadir’s hair to see what my daughter might look like.
19. I am a great advocator of independent sleeping but sometimes in the middle of the night, when k is fast asleep, I go get Nadi back into my bed just because I miss him.
20. I might prefer to believe that everything from bottle weaning to food habits to good behaviour have gone smoothly because of me but the plain truth is that I got damn lucky.
21. Voluntary hugs rock my world.
22. I love saying my boys are waiting for me. I love seeing my boys come to pick me up from campus. I love being the only girl in the family so far. 
But I still want a girl one day inshallah.
23. I hope I have not become the kind of person who has forsaken all her other identities to be only a mom. I want to be able to relate to my friends who are not in the same place in life as I am without being constantly distracted or totally self obsessed or utterly bored.
24. I may be Nadir’s birth mother, but my sisters are the real fairy god-moms. The ones who feel his every pain, indulge his every whim, grant his every wish and refuse to say no, no matter what.
25. The last few minutes before I am about to see Nadi after a gap for 3-4 hours I actually feel like jumping up and down with excitement in the anticipation of his eyes lighting up when he sees me.
Motherhood Randomness
23 Feb 2009 4 Comments
- I can sleep with my eyes open, nod my head, make simple decisions, all without waking up – I call it “switching off”.
- I’ve learned patience beyond the definition of the word!
- I was never “child friendly” – when I first got pregnant, my parents were seriously worried!
- Children are wiser than us.
- Having a second child has been the best experience of my life, I hope the third is even better!
- Having sick children has taught me what heartache really is.
- I love it when kids hide behind curtains with their toes peaking out and they think I can’t see them.
- The look on Ayzah’s face when she spills juice – it’s funny, because when she spills water she knows she can wipe it up with paper towel, but with juice there’s more cleaning required!
- Iman and Ayzah can’t live with each other and can’t live without each other.
- How much I can love all three children in their own different ways… as one of Iman’s Barbie songs go… “Love knows, love grows, bigger than before”.
- How Ayaan looks like a little man, even though he’s a week old!
- How the kids run and climb all over Omair when he comes home. The little monkeys look so cute on my handsome suited husband.
- I’ve always been jealous that Iman and Ayzah are such “Daddy’s girls”, can’t wait for Ayaan to become a “Mama’s boy”.
- I desperately hate shopping, but you should see me go crazy in the kid’s department… it’s strange, even I don’t recognize myself!
- Iman is a great conversationalist. I can sit and speak to her about all kinds of things. She’s becoming more of a friend to me every day.
- I love the way the girls stick up for one another and watch each other’s back.
- I no longer watch television like I used to.
- I still want to have a proper career once the kids are off to school.
- After I had the babies, I always wanted someone to bring me a balloon that said “It’s a Girl!” or “It’s a Boy” – and that never happened. But whenever I go to see a new baby, I always pick up that balloon. I just LOVE them.
- I love kid’s feet and kid’s giggles.
- I couldn’t have gotten through the early days of motherhood without my own mom. Seriously, I couldn’t have.
- I hate super thin moms, but I want to be one.
- I can name all the 12 dancing princesses (according to age). I can also name every Barbie movie ever made.
- After 5pm every day, I don’t want to be a mom any more.
- At 8am every morning, I love being woken up by my kids.
Welcome Ayaan!
21 Feb 2009 1 Comment
Sheza Says:
As the count gets to three, your days get shorter and the nights longer, the home happier and the clothes shabbier, we pray that you will start to blog everyday to inspire the rest of us! =) Here’s wishing you all many happy days, months and years ahead!
mayG Says:
Here’s hoping the first smiles, first steps, first words, first tooth, first wave and cute baby babble makes up for all the dirty diapers, snotty noses, colic pains, rashy bums, and sleepless nights!!
Wishing you everlasting reserves of patience and strength for the 24/7 mom-a-thon!
*hugs*
Mona Says:
Yeaaaaaaa, Party of Five! Y’all could have your own sitcom – that sounds so cool. Third time around, you’re probably doing everything with your eyes closed and on automation.
Jokes aside, Hina, here’s wishing you a lifetime of love and joy with Iman, Ayzah and Ayaan! May your littlest be the easiest yet
Jammie Says:
You are a family of 5 mashallah and that says it all- probably because for me thats what is perfect. Here is praying for the little boy to be the sunshine of your lives, the apple of his sisters’eyes and your source of joy and strength forever- inshallah. I second third and fourth the girls when I say you need to start a blog even if it password protected because we need to stop missing out on the fun stories that are probably happening in your house right now. Lots of love- and now maybe we will feel inspired to revive our tales again
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